There are a lot of books and literature on Truth About Marriage. Here is a web page on why men and women loose their luster and passion for sex with each other that leads to adultery and then divorce. This is so far from the truth about marriage that God’s sexual purpose in marriage is to ordain heavenly sex. Sex in the eyes of God is set apart from the erroneous ideologies of worldly standards about sex in marriage. Godly sex is heavenly and enjoyable but on this web page sex is distorted in marriage you have to read some of the foolishness. Here are a few from, Exposing the truth about marriage in America. Why do most married men quit wanting sex with their wives after 7+ years of marriage? It’s quite simple:

  • His wife doesn’t want sex with him anymore. (see blog post below)
  • His wife stops maintaining her appearance. Pounds are added, hair is cut butch short, makeup not used anymore, and she stops wearing sexy clothing.
  • His wife’s attitude has changed since the dating years. She is now negative, nagging, and complains daily. This is the biggest reason men stop desiring their wives sexually.
  • Men are biologically wired for a variety of sexual partners, not just one. So when a guy can get stimulation and attraction at work, on the road, on the Internet, or in bars with friends, he mentally “moves on” from wanting sex with his wife at home.

[JJ Hairston] What is wrong with this picture? Obviously they are not Christians or are they? Well, I would say non-Christian however, we have people in the Church with this kind of behavior. Their focus is on the flesh not the spirit, "but ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his." Now what is the difference between exposing the truth about marriage in America and the word of God is quite simple, as a new creature in Christ we no longer look at the flesh, live in the flesh or speak in the flesh. In addition, Christians are convicted by the Holy Spirit not to act like the way of the world as you see above! 

Here is another article from that page. When you were dating your new spouse, wasn’t the sex amazing? Any time of day, many times per day; her sexual appetite was simply insatiable. But now, as 95% of married men eventually come to realize, she quits wanting sex with you.

What happened?

It’s simple. She was giving you sex because she was wanting something in return– a wedding band… which now gives her a “tool” whereby she can gain stability (through a man’s money) and children. A little understood fact is that most women don’t pursue sex– period– unless they’re pursuing a man who can give them something they want. And once they have that coveted ring on their finger?

Game over.

This is one of the biggest reasons men should not marry. The delusion is this: Men like the idea of sex with one woman the rest of their lives because now they don’t have to waste all that energy and money chasing women anymore.

But what happens when the source of sex dries up, which it universally does? The obvious: The husband whose wife denies him sex will search for it elsewhere.

So for those of you, who are contemplating marriage, ask yourself one question:

Am I prepared to have a sex-less or near-sex-less marriage for decades– or perhaps the rest of my life?

[JJ Hairston] Wow! The biggest problem with this article is men should not get married because they do not want to have sex with the same woman for the rest of their lives. Here is the biblical standard, Gen. "2:23-25," And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Here Adam and Eve lived together for hundreds of years as one man for one woman the beginning of the institution of marriage as God ordained so. Therefore, whom are you going to believe God or man? We as human beings have the capacity to love one spouse sexually yet; man distorted it because of sin interred into the world. However, only through Jesus Christ can the original meaning of the institution of marriage can be enacted, "Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason? “ Haven't you read,” he replied, “ That at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate,” Matt 19:3-4.

[JJ Hairston] The other biggest problem is sex before marriage! This will obviously lead to problems in the marriage because self control is not being practice. Fornication is not the will of God for Christian dating and it can lead to destruction. Why? Because the body is the temple of the Lord and it belongs to Him! When you give up your body before marriage you are losing respect for one another. Losing respect for your bodies is losing respect for God's temple and God Himself because it is against His will. When respect is lost it is hard to get it back because the seed of lack of respect has been sown. What you sow you will reap! However, we can overcome the affect of lose respect for each other bodies that leads to lose of respect for each other. How, by the power of Gods will, word and His Holy spirit working in our lives!

[JJ Hairston] In my books Truth About Marriage sex is taught that it will never dry up! In this erroneous ideology about sexual relations in marriage is so far from the Truth that you will have to be totally lost and insane to believe the rhetoric from Exposing the truth about marriage in America.

JJH