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THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE UNIVERSITY

Fri, 19 Mar 2010 13:40:43 +0100

In America is it possible to have a university for singles learning how to be husbands and wives? Well in Japan it is possible to learn how to have great marriages by attending a marital institution school. The head line is, TOKYO (Reuters Life!) - In search of Mr. or Mrs. Right, dozens of Japanese are attending a newly launched school in Tokyo that aims to turn them into marriage material. Have Tokyo Japan embarked onto something hot and new that can revolutionized a whole country. Well one problem with Japan is that there are too many singles and not enough married people building families and having children. This was one of the concerns about the future of Japan. As a single person you have to know how to love a man, how to love a woman and how to win one another over into marriage.

The school, which is open to men and women, teaches students how to talk, walk and present themselves elegantly in a bid to capture the hearts and minds of prospective partners and their parents, who are often a major obstacle to successful unions. That is what I call a curriculum to your students how to walk, talk and how to be an overall lady or man. When it comes to in-laws I think it is very important to learn how to get along and to accept one another.

The school is called the Infini School which opened last month, now has about 30 female students. An almost equal number of males have signed up, but those who actually turn up to class are much fewer than their female counterparts. My question is what if we in America adopted a similar type school for singles and to take a little farther, what about classes for married people learning how to better their marriages? There in Japan just to start out with about 60 students is not that bad it is hard to get that many people in Church for the first time.

Here is what I read from that article about this school on what is being taught in general; "Instructors provide critiques about students' dress, posture and even details such as how they cross their legs or get out of a car. Men and women are taught different skills, which range from how to set a table well to how to be more emotionally expressive. Students also simulates dates, during which their instructors grade their performance and point out what they did wrong."

The dress part is very important because some women can dress very provocative in a sexual content. That type of dress is not lady like. For the men I think once you get married you should not stop opening the car door for your woman whom is now your wife.

Here is a quote from a young lady attending the school Infini, "I'm looking for a man who makes more than 10 million yen (110,000 dollars) a year, doesn't ask me to live with his parents and takes good care of me," said Oda, a contract office worker. Is this a little too high of an expectation but a doable one?

Are you ready for the cost of this school, well here it is; "the school charges an annual fee of 200,000 yen ($2,217) for unlimited access to its classes." The question is how serious will America take a marital school to pay $2,217 a year and is America ready for taking marriage that serious?

I believe the Institution of marriage is that serious even if it takes a whole year to get it right in classes to learn the important parts of marriage as a whole. Especially when it comes to a holy matrimony, I believe learning What God said about marriage is even more important to the Institution of Marriage. Why, He invented it, ordained it, and created it!

At this point you might ask why we need a school of marriage when we have the Church. Well that is a good point, then why doesn’t the Church start it up. A school like this can start by the Church and maybe people who call themselves Christians will take marriage more seriously. The highest divorce rate starts with the Christians and it is time that shall I say we as Christians be the examples in our Nation and the world as having the greatest marriages on earth!

WHAT IS HAPPENING TO OUR COUNTRY?

Thu, 18 Mar 2010 21:45:09 +0100

What is happening in our country? Why is it that the Church is not paying attention to our modern Day Sodom and Gomorrah? Are we afraid that we will be called hate mongers against the gay and lesbian rights movement to have same sex marriages? I believe there are similarities between what happened in Gen. 19: 4-9 and today! Here read it for yourself, "4But before they lay down, the men of the city , even the men of Sodom, compassed the house round, both old and young, all the people from every quarter: 5And they called unto Lot, and said unto him, Where are the men which came into thee this night? bring them out unto us, that we may know (have sex) them. 6And Lot went out at the door unto them, and shut the door after him, 7And said, I pray you, brethren, do not so wickedly. 8Behold now, I have two daughters which have not known man; let me, I pray you, bring them out unto you, and do ye to them as is good in your eyes: only unto these men do nothing; for therefore came they under the shadow of my roof. 9And they said, Stand back. And they said again, this one fellow came in to sojourn, and he will needs be a judge; now will we deal worse with the, than with them. And they pressed sore upon the man, even Lot, and came near to break the door."

Every man from every quarter of the town young and old was very wicked and aroused beyond they’re natural ability of the human nature. They wanted to have sex with two men that were angels visiting Lot. This was sick behavior that needed to be eradicated from the earth because it had become too extreme beyond measure, (Gen. 13:13). The men of this land rather have men (the two angels) rather than two women (Lot daughters). Lot was willing to give them up for prostitution however; two wrongs will never equal out right! Is God please with this Nations behavior with similar acts of fornication and sin? That is why God called this type of behavior an abomination, Lev. 18:22, “Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination.” Therefore, how can we continue to let this type of behavior sweep our country by changing each states constitution into marriage between persons not man and woman?

Here is the question, is bashing the gay and lesbian movement right? No! We are to love them into obedience with the Word of God! It is their choice to accept the gospel or reject it. It is the believer’s job to witness to them. That is why I believe in the Truth About Marriage Revolution because it is about love. “4Love is patient, love is kind, It does not envy, it does not boasts, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8Love never fails,” I Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV.

From the citizen-link.org news page!

The Pennsylvania Senate Judiciary Committee tabled a marriage bill, SB 707, on Tuesday that would have amended the state constitution to define marriage as between one man and one woman.

The vote was 8-6. It was the third time in four years that lawmakers have voted down a measure that would have protected the definition of marriage in Pennsylvania's Constitution – keeping marriage safe from activist courts. In Connecticut, Massachusetts and Iowa, courts have redefined marriage to include same-sex couples.

We need to be speaking out as a group of believers to keep our country from falling way to deep into the Sodom and Gomorrah abyss.

MARRIED WOMEN'S EMPLOYMENT, GNEDER SOCIALIZATION, AND DIVORCE

Fri, 19 Mar 2010 16:49:02 +0100

The role change in marriage can lead to divorce! What do I mean by role change? When women start making more money than the men or the man start making less money then he did when they first got married. The roles in marriage change. Well at least they seem to change but in reality they do not according to the Word of God. In this case the woman has to transition her corporate mentality into a virtuous woman mentality. That is what the Proverbs 31: woman is all about! If you read Proverbs 31 you will be surprised how this great woman of God was able to support her family (the Holy Bible does not mention at all the mans income or if he had one at all) and be able to take care of the home simultaneously.

However, in our society today in many cases some women feel that they do not need a man because they can provide for themselves. The woman has become the breadwinner and the head of the household instantly without the man in the home. In some cases if the man is in the home, she has still become the head of the household with her corporate mentality. There is nothing wrong with the woman being the bread winner (we see that in Proverbs 31 considering the man shows no income in scripture) however, the man still has his responsibility as a man to till the land or be the patriarchy of the home. He has to be obedient to the scripture to love his wife as Christ loves the Church, Eph. 25 and I Tim. 5:8, (God commanded his people especially the man of the house to provide for his household!)

Therefore, if the income changes in the home and the wife starts to make more money than the man, women do not hold it over their heads. This is what God has ordained for you to do to be the helpmeet in your marriage, which is glorious in the site of God. In addition, men do not feel inferior to your wife because she is the breadwinner but respect and honor her as your wife and the love of your life. If you want examples for this scenario then look in Proverbs 31, you will find it there.

There is only one Truth About Marriage

Wed, 10 Jun 2009 14:55:22 +0100

There are a lot of books and literature on Truth About Marriage. Here is a web page on why men and women loose their luster and passion for sex with each other that leads to adultery and then divorce. This is so far from the truth about marriage that God’s sexual purpose in marriage is to ordain heavenly sex. Sex in the eyes of God is set apart from the erroneous ideologies of worldly standards about sex in marriage. Godly sex is heavenly and enjoyable but on this web page sex is distorted in marriage you have to read some of the foolishness. Here are a few from, Exposing the truth about marriage in America. Why do most married men quit wanting sex with their wives after 7+ years of marriage? It’s quite simple:

His wife doesn’t want sex with him anymore. (see blog post below)
His wife stops maintaining her appearance. Pounds are added, hair is cut butch short, makeup not used anymore, and she stops wearing sexy clothing.
His wife’s attitude has changed since the dating years. She is now negative, nagging, and complains daily. This is the biggest reason men stop desiring their wives sexually.
Men are biologically wired for a variety of sexual partners, not just one. So when a guy can get stimulation and attraction at work, on the road, on the Internet, or in bars with friends, he mentally “moves on” from wanting sex with his wife at home.

[JJ Hairston] What is wrong with this picture? Obviously they are not Christians or are they? Well, I would say non-Christian however, we have people in the Church with this kind of behavior. Their focus is on the flesh not the spirit, "but ye are not in the flesh, but in the Spirit, if so be that the Spirit of God dwell in you. Now if any man have not the Spirit of Christ, he is none of his." Now what is the difference between exposing the truth about marriage in America and the word of God is quite simple, as a new creature in Christ we no longer look at the flesh, live in the flesh or speak in the flesh. In addition, Christians are convicted by the Holy Spirit not to act like the way of the world as you see above!

Here is another article from that page. When you were dating your new spouse, wasn’t the sex amazing? Any time of day, many times per day; her sexual appetite was simply insatiable. But now, as 95% of married men eventually come to realize, she quits wanting sex with you.

What happened?

It’s simple. She was giving you sex because she was wanting something in return– a wedding band… which now gives her a “tool” whereby she can gain stability (through a man’s money) and children. A little understood fact is that most women don’t pursue sex– period– unless they’re pursuing a man who can give them something they want. And once they have that coveted ring on their finger?

Game over.

This is one of the biggest reasons men should not marry. The delusion is this: Men like the idea of sex with one woman the rest of their lives because now they don’t have to waste all that energy and money chasing women anymore.

But what happens when the source of sex dries up, which it universally does? The obvious: The husband whose wife denies him sex will search for it elsewhere.

So for those of you, who are contemplating marriage, ask yourself one question:

Am I prepared to have a sex-less or near-sex-less marriage for decades– or perhaps the rest of my life?

[JJ Hairston] Wow! The biggest problem with this article is men should not get married because they do not want to have sex with the same woman for the rest of their lives. Here is the biblical standard, Gen. "2:23-25," And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh." Here Adam and Eve lived together for hundreds of years as one man for one woman the beginning of the institution of marriage as God ordained so. Therefore, whom are you going to believe God or man? We as human beings have the capacity to love one spouse sexually yet; man distorted it because of sin interred into the world. However, only through Jesus Christ can the original meaning of the institution of marriage can be enacted, "Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, "Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason? “ Haven't you read,” he replied, “ That at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate,” Matt 19:3-4.

[JJ Hairston] The other biggest problem is sex before marriage! This will obviously lead to problems in the marriage because self control is not being practice. Fornication is not the will of God for Christian dating and it can lead to destruction. Why? Because the body is the temple of the Lord and it belongs to Him! When you give up your body before marriage you are losing respect for one another. Losing respect for your bodies is losing respect for God's temple and God Himself because it is against His will. When respect is lost it is hard to get it back because the seed of lack of respect has been sown. What you sow you will reap! However, we can overcome the affect of lose respect for each other bodies that leads to lose of respect for each other. How, by the power of Gods will, word and His Holy spirit working in our lives!

[JJ Hairston] In my books Truth About Marriage sex is taught that it will never dry up! In this erroneous ideology about sexual relations in marriage is so far from the Truth that you will have to be totally lost and insane to believe the rhetoric from Exposing the truth about marriage in America.

JJH